I am a Matrimonial Attorney, Mediator and Collaborative Professional. My firm offers three different options for divorce resolution based upon the needs of the client. The choice of method depends upon the level of conflict between the spouses and their ability to communicate.
The three options are:
I am a Certified Mediator with the 40 hours of training required for Family Part Mediators pursuant to the New Jersey Court Rules. As the neutral mediator, I meet with both husband and wife to resolve the issues of the divorce. Each party is encouraged to receive independent legal advice regarding the final settlement. This approach works best for approximately 10% of divorcing couples where conflict is low and the spouses can communicate. For those couples, this is the least expensive method.
2. Collaborative Divorce
I have completed Interdisciplinary Collaborative Practice Training. As a Collaborative lawyer, I represent one of the spouses while the other spouse has his or her own Collaborative lawyer. I support my client’s interests and advocate for his or her positions, while also being responsible for the family system. Collaborative rather than adversarial approaches are used. The issues of the divorce are resolved by means of a series of meetings, sometimes with the assistance of other professionals such as an accountant and a divorce coach. Good communication and reduction in conflict are stressed. This approach works best when the spouses seek to reduce conflict, and where they seek for their children’s sake to develop an effective co-parenting relationship. A Collaborative Divorce costs approximately one-third of the cost of a litigated divorce.
Throughout my career, I have served as a litigator who prides herself on her ability to settle cases. I represent one spouse while the other spouse has his or her own attorney. If the spouses cannot settle, the matter must go to trial to be resolved by a Judge. The litigation system works best for couples where the emotional level is too high for productive direct contact and the clients need to have their lawyer advocate their positions and communicate for them. Clients may meet in settlement conferences but they are not required to do so. Of the three methods, litigation is the most difficult emotionally and the most expensive.